So communication it; starts, finishes and is a relationship.  With good communication can you prolong your relationship.  But bad communication as as the man and women in “Hills Like White Elephants” found out it can kill a relationship very fast.  The man was to dominate for a relation ship, he just needed to stop and listen to what she wanted to say and she would have been more the happy with him, well he did not because he had other things on his mind

                ” ‘and we could have all this’ she said ‘and we could have everything and everyday

                   we make it more impossible

                  ‘what did you say?’

                  ‘I said that we could have everything’

                  ‘no, we can’t’ ” (Hemingway, Hills Like White Elephants, pg 4)

Even when you are trying to listen to what your family really wants, but just not getting the it can be as bad for a relationship as not listing at all.  This is something that Micheal Newman (Adam Sandlers, click) learns very quickly when confronted with what he thinks is the best thing for him and his family to get control. The clicker the device that controls the world around it, ends up destroying; his perfect world, his perfect marriage, which is all he really needed.

so obviously materialism as well as being self-centered is not the way to keep a relationship strong. but to stop listen and appreciate that each other has to say is the way to go

references

Hills Like White Elephants, Ernest Hemingway page 4 paragraph 17- 19