communication

So communication it; starts, finishes and is a relationship.  With good communication can you prolong your relationship.  But bad communication as as the man and women in “Hills Like White Elephants” found out it can kill a relationship very fast.  The man was to dominate for a relation ship, he just needed to stop and listen to what she wanted to say and she would have been more the happy with him, well he did not because he had other things on his mind

                ” ‘and we could have all this’ she said ‘and we could have everything and everyday

                   we make it more impossible

                  ‘what did you say?’

                  ‘I said that we could have everything’

                  ‘no, we can’t’ ” (Hemingway, Hills Like White Elephants, pg 4)

Even when you are trying to listen to what your family really wants, but just not getting the it can be as bad for a relationship as not listing at all.  This is something that Micheal Newman (Adam Sandlers, click) learns very quickly when confronted with what he thinks is the best thing for him and his family to get control. The clicker the device that controls the world around it, ends up destroying; his perfect world, his perfect marriage, which is all he really needed.

so obviously materialism as well as being self-centered is not the way to keep a relationship strong. but to stop listen and appreciate that each other has to say is the way to go

references

Hills Like White Elephants, Ernest Hemingway page 4 paragraph 17- 19

the Rocking-Horse Winner

I believe that Paul,  the main character in D.H Lawrence the Rocking-Horse Winner well actually his mother fells it better to have Paul to die then to have him spend his life riding his horse to find the winner.  even thought he was making the money to get the mother to finally love him he was in fact just fueling he desire “there must be more money, there must be more money” (Inside Stories for Senior Students, the Rocking-Horse Winner, D.H. Lawrence pg 221)which shows how his life was a circular pattern: he makes the money, his mother wants more, so he goes and gambles some more, and so on and so forth.  up until the very end the mother had no idea the 8-year-old son has been gambling to make the money that she is getting but finally getting it when the son said that he was lucky, and the fact the basset said he won eighty thousand pounds. so in short even if people don’t quiet see what you want the to, its alright as long as you keep to your goals

references

 .H. Lawrence, Inside Stories for Senior Students, the Rocking-Horse Winner, 1993 Harcourt Canada lid, pg 221